Wrong intentions of the women:.
When a guy approaches, it’s either for; 1. Love 2. Sex 3. Friendship But most times women fail to believe a man is either approaching for love, so in their heart they convince themselves that he's either approaching for sex without even placing the friendship as an option at all.
When this happens because women want LOVE they substitute the man's intention for theirs, failing to first establish what the man's intentionis. When they do this it gives them a sense of control, making them believe no matter what the man's intention is, they can overcome it with certain resistance, which may be not giving in to sex or not showing too much love or hiding how they truly feel thinking when they do this the man will finally change his intention to loving them even if what the man wants is sex.
The woman wants love;the man wants sex, so as the woman is putting all in place to change the man's intention to loving her so also the manis putting everything in place to make sure the woman gives in to sex.
The man begins to observe all protocol and in observing this protocol, the woman starts thinking the man is finally falling in line with her own intention which is love, making him love her.
When she's now convince that the man has finally giving in to her desire she then decides to give him sex,forgetting that she gave sex based on her own convictions and not base on the love the man is giving, her conviction in this case is what she now believes to be love.
So when she gives sex, the man is now getting what he wants and in turn since he has gotten what he wants he decides to move on with his life and the woman is left heart-broken, trying to blame the fault on the man, forgetting that they both have different intention.
She substituted the man’s own intention for the love she wants failing to first establish what the man's original intentions are, which has made her overlooked all the fact.
This is why when men dump women, women keep wondering why. Always see relationship beyond sex, don't ever think you can change a man's intention through manipulation, if your intentions are both different it’s safer and better to let go from the onset.
I always count this saying to be very invalid which "Saying if a man truly loves you he will wait till marriage before getting sex " It does not make sense at all. Thinking his waiting means love shows you need to re-evaluate yourself.
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