5 Things That Consumes Most Nigerians Money (No 3. Can Wreck You)

5 Things That Consumes Most Nigerians Money (No 3. Can Wreck You)

It’s not your earnings that makes you rich but your spending habits.

When people complain about hardship and lack of money, they forget to look back at how they had spent the last money earned.

There are some little things people spend money on without knowing that accumulation of those little things will amount to large expenses thereby rendering one penniless.

Below are top 5 things that drains almost all Nigerians’ bank account

1. Mobile Phones

No doubt, mobile phones are important to our daily life but the struggle to use latest mobile phone gadget pose a major threat to financial life of many Nigerians.

Research had it that an average Nigerian change phone at least twice in a year. Some people go as far as using their life savings to buy latest phone just to level up.

Somebody using iPhone 8 wants to upgrade to iPhone X when another iPhone XI is already out. At the end of the day, these phones still serve almost the same function, with little adjustment.

2. Recharge Cards For Call & Browsing Data

Changing phones like clothes is not enough but recharging the phones for calls and browsing is another money draining things we spend too much money on.

In all indications, network providers are benefiting immensely from spending habit of Nigerians when it comes to recharging and data usage. On the average, Nigerians spend over ₦5,000 on data monthly.

We wish to spend less on Data but Instagram Videos, YouTube Videos, Whatsapp Statusand the rest won’t let us.

3. Fueling Generator & Car

It’s sad that Nigeria is a country where you will use over N10,000 fuel just to enjoy yourN2,000 GOTV subscription.

Poor power supply in Nigeria is draining the pockets of everyone and the fact that you will still have to pay PHCN bill again after spending much on fuel makes the country more frustrating.

For those that have car too, with ₦145 per liter fuel rates, it is less expensive to use Public transport than a Private car.

4. Alcohol and Cigar

Taking a look at records of Alcohol and cigarettes consumption  in Nigeria in past years, it is quite obvious that Nigerians spend more on alcohol consumption.
It's a big time custom to see folks going out and spend on alcohol, just imagine the amount of money spent on alcohol and cigarettes in a month and tell me of what medical benefits it is adding to your life.
As a matter of fact, guys are now balling with no budget.

5. Transportation

Only Lagosians will understand that transportation takes away a larger part of one’s income.

Many people work far away from home, so going to work everyday drains money.

Thank You All For Reading

Now The Question Is 👇

Which Of The Above Drains Your Income The Most?

What Other Things Do You Think Should Be Added To This List?

Drop your comment!

Romance: This Old Couple Show Us How It Is Done

Romance: This Old Couple Show Us How It Is Done

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How woman’s sumptuous meal changed her assassin’s mind

How woman’s sumptuous meal changed her assassin’s mind

…I was overfed and had change of heart— hired assassin

By Evelyn Usman

It is not uncommon to find the elderly persons being paraded for various crimes at the Lagos State Police Command headquarters, Ikeja. But in this case, Mrs Gladys Osaigbovo-Omon (60), was not a guest at the command over any criminal matter.

Her case could best be described as the proverbial cat with nine lives as she narrowly escaped being assassinated at her residence in Benin-City, the Edo State Capital, a fortnight ago.

Clad in a buba and wrapper and a pair of red slippers, she sat on a chair with both hands clasped together as she kept shaking her legs slowly.

At a point, she glanced at the two suspected assassins close to her, shook her head in disbelief before lifting it up to the sky and muttered, Osalobua uwese( meaning ‘God, thank you’, in Benin dialect).

When approached, she was too stunned to narrate what brought her from Benin city. All she could mutter in pidgin English was that the stab of a loved one could be so painful when compared to that of a stranger.

As you read this piece, two suspected assassins hired to eliminate the sexagenarian have been arrested by the Police in Lagos while efforts were still on to arrest the alleged mastermind, an Europe Based Nigerian woman.

Surprisingly, the alleged mastermind turned out to be her younger sister while one of the suspected assassins was discovered to be her nephew.

Human trafficking goes awry

The crux of the matter was a case of human trafficking gone awry. Crime Guard gathered that 60-year-old Gladys, being the eldest of her siblings, assisted them in her own little way. One of her siblings, Augusta Osaigbovo, according to her, lived with her for 13 years until she left for Europe.

At a time, Gladys said she begged Augusta, to take one of her daughters, Mercy Omon, overseas, for better life, an offer that was granted.

However, on arriving the United Kingdom, Mercy contacted her family back in Nigeria to inform them that her aunty, Augusta, was a leader of a prostitution ring and had recruited her into prostitution in London.

Strained relationship

But she claimed to have refused to bow to pressures from her aunty to go into prostitution, an action that led to a strained relationship between them.

Along the line, Crime Guard gathered that Mercy was arrested by Police authorities in the UK, for possessing fake documents which were allegedly facilitated by her aunty. She managed to wriggle her way out of trouble after disclosing that her aunty, Augusta, brought her to London with job promises, only to turn out to be something else. Her confession led to Augusta’s subsequent arrest and was thereafter jailed.

•Osaro and Lucky (Osaro Okonoboh ( l) and Luck Oboh )

Assassination move

According to the Commissioner of Police, Lagos State Police Command, Imohimi Edgal, who paraded the suspected assassins, “When Augusta Osaigbovo finished her jail term, she complained to her sister Gladys, that her daughter, Mercy, whom she brought from the village to help, had ruined her. Believing that her sister was supporting her daughter, she decided to hire the services of assassins to eliminate Gladys

Betrayal

The first person allegedly contacted by Augusta, was her nephew, Osaro Okonoboh (44), whom the sexagenarian kept glancing at, in shock.

In an interview with Osaro, a commercial bus driver who resides in Lagos, he admitted to have been contacted by Augusta to snuff life out of his aunty, Gladys.

He said “ Aunty Gladys is my mother’s eldest sister. Aunty Augusta who stays abroad, my mother and aunty Gladys were born of the same mother. She (Augusta ) called me on phone that she would want me to help her kill aunty Gladys. When I asked why, she said aunty Gladys was the one behind what Mercy did to her abroad. I told her I did not know of any assassin but that I would look for one.

“I contacted Lucky Oboh, who is also a driver, here in Lagos. He also said he would look for someone. He came back and said he had found someone, Igbinedion Ogbevon who demanded N1 million for the job. When I called Augusta to inform her, I told her that the proposed assassin asked for N4.5 million”.

Journey to Benin City

Osaro then gave the job of eliminating Mrs Gladys Osaigbovo- Omon to Igbinedion Ogbevon and Lucky Oboh. But Ogbevon, who also hails from Edo state, insisted on visiting the target’s home, in order to know where she lived and also to study the terrain.

Crime Guard gathered that on July 17, 2018 Osaro, Gladys’ nephew took the suspected hired assassin, Ogbevon on a visit to Gladys’ home in Benin City.

An elated Gladys was said to have welcomed the visitors with a sumptuous meal and drinks, unaware that she was entertaining her assailants.

Miracle food

By the time her visitors announced their departure, she had brought another meal for them and insisted they must eat before hitting the road back to Lagos.

That singular display of kindness and generosity saved Gladys’ life as it endeared her supposed killer’s heart towards her.

In an interview with Crime Guard, Ogbevon, narrated how he changed his mind and turned around to spill the beans that led to the arrest of Osaro and Lucky.

He said: “On our way back after the visit, I asked Osaro why he wanted his aunty killed.  He said that was what he was contracted to do. But in my mind I decided I was not going to do it because of the woman’s kindness, although I didn’t tell Osaro I was opting out. You needed to have seen the way the woman welcomed us and took pains to prepare food for us as if she had been expecting us. I was really overfed.

When I got home, I was troubled and had to open up to my uncle, who advised that I should first go back to the woman and tell her of the plan to kill her and thereafter report to the police. I then went with my uncle to visit mummy ( Gladys) to tell her about the plan by Augusta and Osaro to eliminate her. From there, we informed the Police who advised I played along, until I was given part payment of N490,000. I had to play along so that they would not contact another person”.

At this point, the sexagenarian exclaimed, ‘Osalobua’! ( My God!). Speaking in Pidgin English, she said “when they told me, I could not believe that my own family members would want me dead.

Mrs Gladys Osaigbovo-Omo

‘I don’t know why my sister, who stayed with me for 13 years wanted to do this to me. Had she succeeded nobody would have attributed it to her. Perhaps, she would have attended my burial. But I thank God, she did not succeed.

I thank the Police and every other person that God used to spare my life. My thanks also go to our father, the Oba of Benin who placed a curse on anyone who is tarnishing the image of the ancient city outside the country”.

Ailing Actor, Olumide Bakare leaves UCH Hospital

Ailing Actor, Olumide Bakare leaves UCH Hospital

Ailing actor, Olumide Bakare who is in need of 7 million naira to survive after been knocked down with a seirous heart related disease a couple of weeks back,  has finally left University Hospital College, Ibadan, Oyo State.

Olumide Bakare  was diagnosed for blood clot in 2013 before it generated to “Dissecting Aortic Aneurysm and Pulmonary Embolism” which has to do with heart related issues.

Yoruba movie gist reports that the injection he takes, cost hims #14,000 plus per one and it’s called Clexane injection which he takes 4 per day and he has been taking that for 21 days before he later cried to Nigerians for help.

He has now been discharged from UCH.

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her. 

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much. 

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too. 

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Rihanna goes braless in sheer gown for Lionel Richie's tribute event(Photos)

Rihanna goes braless in sheer gown for Lionel Richie's tribute event(Photos)

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Husband beats up, stabs wife in the face 'for refusing to open the gate''

Husband beats up, stabs wife in the face 'for refusing to open the gate''

A 30-year-old corps member and housewife, Funmilayo (pseudonym) has been battered by her husband, identified only as Bade, who also allegedly poked his finger into her eye during a disagreement at their home in the Surulere area of Lagos State.
Bade was also alleged to have stabbed her in the face with a broken glass and rained blows into her head and face.
She was rushed to a health centre in the area before being taken to the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital, Ikeja.

Policemen from the Surulere division were said to have arrested and detained Bade, after which he was released on bail.

PUNCH Metro learnt that the drama happened last Monday at the couple’s residence in the Kilo area of Surulere.
Funmilayo, an Insurance graduate, said she had followed her husband to his parent’s house on the day, and they had returned around 8pm.

She said, “Immediately we got home, he said he wanted to go for a meeting somewhere and I told him to return as early as possible before they shut the street gate at 10pm.
“When it was 11pm, I called him, but he didn’t pick his calls. He also did not respond to a Whatsapp message I sent around that time. He later picked his call and I warned him that if he returned too late I would not rise up from bed to open the gate for him.

“Around 1am, I called his telephone line again and I heard a noise at the background. I overheard a lady talking. I told him I was going for my NYSC Community Development Service early in the morning, but he ignored me.”

Funmilayo, who already had two children for Bade, said she returned to bed, but her husband did not return until it was 2am.

“At about 2am, he called me on the telephone and said I should come and open the gate, but I ignored him. When I eventually went downstairs to open the gate, somebody else had done it.
“He abused my mother and I cautioned him, but he said it was my day of reckoning and my cup of iniquity was full. I was in my night gown that time.
“He picked up his belt and started beating me. As I tried to run away from him, I fell down. During the struggle, a mirror fell on the floor and he stabbed me with a splinter. He sat on me. I screamed in pain and shouted for help, but nobody came to my rescue.

“He poked a finger into my eye and gave me several blows in the face,” she said.

Funmilayo explained that she managed to bite Bade’s leg, adding that it was then he let go of her.
She said an in-law rushed her to a medical facility in the area before she was later taken to LASUTH for treatment.

However, PUNCH Metro gathered that after the detention of the suspect, some family members prevailed on the victim to let go of the case “because of the children.”The couple were, however, said to have separated pending when the matter would be fully resolved.
When contacted, Bade denied attacking his wife, adding that she was the first to assault him.

“All she said was a lie. It was my hand that I used to beat her and she was the one that used a plank to hit me in the back and even stabbed me with the broken mirror.
“I have a deep cut in my back and in the front. I slapped her.“She got a swollen face because she is plump,” he said.

The Police Public Relations Officer, SP Dolapo Badmos, said the police were preparing to take Bade to court when his wife came to withdraw the case.

She said, “A case of assault occasioning harm was reported against the man.
“He was arrested, detained and given bail to a reliable surety and warned to report back the next day during which the charges were ready.
“But the wife (victim) came back and was pleading, along with both families, not to take the case to court on the grounds that he is her husband and the father of her children.

“However, undertaking was written by the husband to be of good behaviour. The case is still on.

See Beautiful Photos of Musician 9ice and His New Woman

See Beautiful Photos of Musician 9ice and His New Woman

In six years, 9ice now has 4 kids from 3 baby mamas. I don't know if he's married this fine lady in private but he shared lovely photos of her and their daughter to mark his birthday. See more...

. I wish you the best and look at the little girl , I guess she is more than happy, lot of swags

My Boyfriend proposed & I accepted, then he started doing this

My Boyfriend proposed & I accepted, then he started doing this

I am a lady that is days away from turning 30. I am beautiful, intelligent, fun loving and smart. My story has been a very interesting and sad one... I was born with a deformity of not being able to bear a child.

N.B. I have never done an abortion so please don’t think it’s because of recklessness I have damaged my womb. I have dated three guys, two of whom I told about my situation. I left the third, I couldn’t tell him because I was scared, so I acted up and gave him attitude, then he left too.

I am currently engaged to a guy a friend hooked me up with, that claims he loves me but I really doubt it. I told him about my situation and he accepted...
he made a huge proposal after I told him, and it went viral, to show to the world how he loves me.

But here is the real deal, he doesn’t show me he cares. I am abused at the slightest opportunity. Calling me names I have never been called. He cheats on me so much that it breaks my heart, currently he is sleeping with the house-help which he can’t hide anymore. He even brings some of his girls home and I just look and cry my eyes out when am alone.

He makes me feel worthless. First of all I mustn’t talk to my friends when he is around if not he gets jealous. He asked me to close up my Facebook, Instagram, BlackBerry messages, WhatsApp and delete all my contacts because he doesn’t want me talking to anyone…we don’t even go out as couple, he doesn’t take me anywhere.

I am not allowed to work anymore cos he said his wife won’t work. I had a very lucrative job back in my country and he made me quit. I really do not have much savings but I had 25,000 USD which I have given to him on loan and I doubt if he will ever pay. My family back home depends on me. I have been working my ass out to support the family but I always had a lonely and sad night… In my quest to find happiness I find myself here. Now I can’t support my family, I don’t even have a dime to my name and I’m in a strange country with no one to talk to. I am even too broke to go make my hair in the salon, I have learnt how to make my hair myself now. Same me that goes to the best salon back home, wears the best clothes and now I have been reduced to nothing.

Because I don’t have anymore money to give to him he sees me as a dull girl. That I am not smart at all... I called home last month and the last money I had was used to get me air ticket to leave here after a very big fight... But after finding out about it he begged me to stay and I did.

His way of life I can’t deal…he poses to be very rich, which I really don’t care if he is rich or broke because I know I can survive without a man’s money. But he lives in debt around that I am ashamed of moving around. We have been arrested once because he was owing someone. He lives a fake life and it breaks my heart because I’m one of the realest girls you can know. In a bid to cover up, once he gets little money he shops for clothes and wrist watches and gives people money to show off, without even paying up some debts.

He doesn’t want to go see my parents, he wants to send money home for my bride price to be done back home and we won’t attend. I have always dreamt of been a bride, I am very beautiful and I dream of how a beautiful bride I will be.

Now what should I do? I feel so ashamed to even go back home with no money attached to my name. The stigma of getting engaged and dumped? Or stay with this man that makes my life unbearable? If I leave who will ever marry me with my health issue? I hear lots of people say marriage is not always blissful, is it always like this? Should I stay and build this which I doubt will work? If I stay, how do I cope with him sleeping with househelps and everything under skirts...

Please I need a realistic way out of this mess.

- by a sister in need of help

Amazing ! How I hurriedly married my wife after another man proposed — Ejike Okoye tells his beautiful love story

Amazing ! How I hurriedly married my wife after another man proposed — Ejike Okoye tells his beautiful love story

The Okoyes

 

Nollywood actor, Ejike Okoye, has been married to Ify, a program analyst and financial expert, for 14 years. They share their love story with Spice below:

How and when did you meet your wife?

Ejike: I met my wife in the early 90s while I was in secondary school and I have been a friend of her family ever since. We started out just as good friends but with no strings attached. I watched her grow up and realised that she was reserved and homely. Also, she was her parents’ favourite; she always kept the house clean, helped out in the kitchen and never missed any of her daily chores. She had high moral standards unlike most teenagers her age. She has remained God-fearing till date. She also ensured that I ate each time I visited their house back then. She possessed all the qualities of a good wife right from the first day I met her.

What were your first impressions of your husband?

Ify: My husband has been a friend of my family years before we got married. He showed a lot of care to my younger siblings and I, without making advances at us. He usually took us out to parties, the swimming pool, confectionaries and other fun spots. He has remained a nice guy and a handsome gentleman.

How did you propose to her?

Ejike: We grew so fond of each other in no time and also understood each other perfectly. My wife could read me like no one else and she also inspired me. I approached her directly and she wasn’t surprised because she already knew my intentions. She was very happy when I proposed to her.

Ify: He proposed to me over the phone and I was very happy. The engagement ring came afterwards.

How long did it take to woo her?

Ejike: It didn’t take me long to woo her because God had already destined us to be together. We knew we loved each other long before we even met.

How long did you court your wife?

Ify: Our friendship started during our secondary school days but I was still in primary school when he started coming over to our house. There was no form of intimacy until we decided to get married to each other.

At what point did you decide to marry her?

Ejike: It felt as though we were both dying in silence. We knew we wanted each other but neither of us wanted to give it a shot at first. I guess it’s because we were used to each other as family friends. We didn’t express our love for each other until a man came to seek her hand in marriage. That was when the love, care and passion came to light and ever since then it has continued to grow.

Is he as romantic as he is being portrayed in movies?

Ify: Absolutely! My husband is a very romantic and caring gentle man. I don’t think it has anything to do with the fact that he is an actor. I knew him long before he ventured into acting even though we weren’t dating at the time. I don’t think acting plays any role in an individual’s love life. It has to do with the individuals involved.

Were you comfortable with him becoming an actor?

Did: Yes I was. There was no cause for alarm.

How have you coped with his schedules and female fans?

Ify: As a wife and a mother, I pay attention to my husband and children. In addition, I love, respect and submit to my husband. We do everything and have fun together as a wonderful family. He balances his
work and his family life perfectly. His absence is always brief and has never been felt that much. An
average man or woman with blood flowing in his or her veins would naturally be jealous. Nobody wants to share his or her partner but I don’t let that interfere with our friendship, marriage and commitments. I trust my husband a lot. My Christian faith also goes a long way and God has been my strength and companion.

How do you constantly reassure your wife of your fidelity?

Ejike: Communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage. I am always open to my wife in all ramifications especially when a woman makes passes at me. I always reassure her that I will never let any woman to come in between us. The most important aspect of a relationship is actively making it as fulfilling as it can be at all times. Whilst I’m aware that it takes a considerable amount of time to get to a level of complete ease and trust in a relationship, the best temporary measure is to simply suppress any insecurity you may have as soon as they arise. It will let your partner know that you trust them, which in turn will emotionally pull them closer to you rather than push them away.

In what ways do you get each other angry?

Ejike: No marriage is perfect; the only perfect being I know is God. I get my wife angry sometimes but I apologise after a while. Sometimes it takes a day or two. I will not elaborate on how I got my wife angry but I learn from the mistake and not to let it happen again. Our love grows stronger after apologising.

Ify: Every marriage has its ups and downs but don’t let it linger for a long time. If you are wrong, apologise. It will not make or break you. It can only amount to a healthy relationship. The reasons behind most celebrity marriage breakup could be lack of love, peace, understanding and most importantly the inability to forgive and forget.

Do you have access to each other’s phones and social media accounts?

Ify: We make use of each other’s phone without any restrictions but with permission. Our phones don’t have passwords. Social media accounts technically have passwords but I never cared to ask my husband for his password because I don’t think it is necessary. Also, I am not a fan of social media. I only have a Facebook account, which I visit once or twice a month. It’s all about trust.

How do you spend time as a couple?

Ify: We balance our work with our family and at the same time optimise the time we have together. We go on vacation, visit fun places and forget everything about work. Sometimes, I surprise him with vacation packages. I always prepare his favourite meal, which is Eba andEgusi soup. My husband cooks too and sometimes serves me breakfast in bed. I am always happy whenever he does that.

What is the secret behind the success of your union?

Ify: The secret to a successful marriage is praying and ministering the word of God together as a couple. Understanding and communicating with each other is also important in a marriage and having Jesus Christ, as the overall head of your household is the only way you can have a successful marriage.

What advice do you have for intending couples?

Ify: They must really seek God with all their heart before they make any commitment. They must also let the Lord direct their footsteps. Marriage is like an institution; intending couples should be able to study each other especially those in a long-term relationship before getting married. Couples should give each other attention and respect themselves. They should not forget remarkable dates like birthdays, wedding anniversaries and never fail to express their love for each other.

Do you operate a joint bank account?

Ejike: Absolutely, we have foreign and domestic joint accounts. God joined us together as one, so we do things together. I advise couples to do the same because they never know what tomorrow holds.

What pet names do you call each other?

Ejike: I call my wife Ify or Baby and she calls me Eji, Getsmart or Baby.

My dear Ladies, will you reject a guy that shows up for a first date in a yellow & black cab?

My dear Ladies, will you reject a guy that shows up for a first date in a yellow & black cab?

 

A young man recently sent a mail to love doctor, Joro Olumofin, expressing his anger at being rejected on a date because he brought a yellow and black cab to pick her.

So here's the question, ladies will you do same? If you at like that, sorry, you may be a late comer ooh, maybe by 50 years I assume

Meet Nike Okundaye aged 64, The Nigerian Woman Without Education But Lectures At Harvard

Meet Nike Okundaye aged 64, The Nigerian Woman Without Education But Lectures At Harvard

Not many in her homeland appear to know about her unique story. But in other lands, especially Europe and America, she is a ‘goddess’ whose works are cherished by kings and presidents.

Without a doubt, the story of Nike Okundaye, the face behind the huge success story of Nike Arts Gallery that is located in Lagos, Abuja and Osogbo, is as compelling as it is inspiring...

At a time when young Nigerians are in desperate need of a role model and inspiration in what self-belief and hard work can achieve, Nike’s rise from the status of an unknown village girl born into a seeming insignificant family in a rustic village to a globally celebrated icon would make an A-list inspirational novel.

Born in her native village of Ogidi, Ijumu LGA of Kogi State, young Nike had high dreams about what type of future she wanted for herself. But her dreams were truncated even before they could take form when she lost her mother at age six. “I was six when my mother died,” she said with a tinge of sadness.

With the blow inflicted on her dreams by her mother’s death, young Nike was taken away to live with her grandmother. At the time, many believed that by going to live with an old woman, the young girl’s future had been compromised. But events have since proved that destiny may indeed have been at work in her journey through life.

She had her first contact with the world of arts through her grandmother, who at the time, was the leader of cloth weavers in the community.

She said: “I come from a family of craftsmen. My parents were crafts people from Ogidi in Ijumu Local Government Area, Kogi State. My life as an artist is something that I was born with. I started weaving at the age of six.

“I started with weaving different things, including adire, a traditional Yoruba hand-painted cloth design. As a matter of fact, I can say everything that had to do with textile. They taught me how to weave, using a little calabash. Gradually, I graduated to using bigger materials.”

Though Nike was six years old and barely able to tell the difference between her left and right hands, she already had a picture of the kind of future she wanted.

“My grandmother was the head of all the weavers in our community. So, even as a little child, I already had a dream that I would own a big studio when I grew up. People came from different areas to buy the cloth from her. So, at that time, I already sensed that I might not have the opportunity to go to school.”

With the death of her mother, her grandmother, whose responsibility it was to look after her, did not pamper her in any form. She ensured that the virtue of hard work was instilled in Nike’s young, impressionable mind.

At that time, young Nike, unaware of the reason behind her great grandmother’s action, would cry, believing that she was being unnecessarily punished. “I would cry and lament because I thought she was wicked and punishing me. But today, I always thank her for inculcating in me the virtue of hard work. It was through her that I learnt that you must persevere in whatever you do and never give up on your dreams.”

Although she lost her mother at a time she needed her most, Nike believes that destiny might have been involved in the way her life played out, including her mother’s death. According to her, the mother was a very hard working young woman who would have spared nothing to ensure that her child got a good education up to the university level.

“Even at that young age, I knew that my mother was very hard working. And I am very sure that if she had not died, she would have trained me up to university level. My father was a farmer. He also did several other things like basket weaving to supplement his income. So, definitely, I would have been educated very well if my mother had not died.

“But today, I look at my childhood and all that I went through as something designed by destiny. Who knows, maybe if my mother had not died and I had gone ahead to be educated, I may never have had the kind of opportunity that I have today and may never have risen to the level that I am.”

Nike never went to school to study art, the vocation that has brought her to global spotlight.

Vocational training in art was passed down to her by her great grandmother, the late Madam Ibikunle. Watching her great grandmother in the art of adire textile processing and helping her out, Nike walked up the line to become an expert in adire making, dyeing, weaving, painting and embroidery.

A product of the famous Osogbo Art Movement, Nike is today a world acclaimed artist and textile designer. She brings vivid imagination as well as a wealth of history and tradition into the production of adire. Her works are celebrated in major capitals of the world, with her designs exhibited in countries like the USA, Belgium, Germany, Japan and Italy, among others.

Nike spent the early part of her life in Osogbo, a recognised hotbed for art and culture in Nigeria. During her stay in Osogbo, her informal training was dominated by indigo and adire.

Nike’s romance with international exposure began in 1968 when she had an exhibition at the Goethe Institute in Lagos. Since then, she has grown to become a major name on the international art circuit. She is most outstanding in paintings and design of adire, beadwork and batik.

Among Nike’s proudest achievements was her invitation to Italy by the Italian government in 2000 to train young Nigerian sex workers on how to use their hands to engage in creative ventures. Her invitation was as a result of complaints to the Italian government by the young Nigerians that they left Nigeria in search of work, not knowing what they would be forced into. When Nike got to Italy, she taught them skills in craft making and many of the women became self-reliant in no time and stopped their old means of income.

In 2006, she was awarded one of the highest Italian national awards of merit by the government of the Republic of Italy in appreciation of her efforts in using art to address and solve the problems of Nigerian sex workers in Italy.

About two years ago, her adire painting was accepted at The Smithsonian, the world’s largest museum, located in Washington DC, US. Some of her works can be found amongst the collection of prominent personalities around the world, including the White House.

While little is known about Nike and her works across the country, two former presidents of the USA, Bill Clinton and George Bush, were so enthralled by her works at various times that they sought audience with her during their visits to Nigeria. Much more than just meeting and shaking hands with the two former presidents, it was Nike that decorated George Bush’s room in Abuja during his stay in the country.

These two incidents, Nike told The Nation, were some of the best things to have happened to her.
She said: “When President Bill Clinton of the US visited Nigeria, he asked to meet the woman behind Nike Gallery, and I was taken to Abuja to meet him. It was the same thing with President George Bush. I was invited to meet him in Abuja during his visit to Nigeria. I was the one that decorated the room where the president stayed during the visit. What honour can be greater than this? I feel accomplished.”

As an accomplished artist, Nike has taught in several universities in the US, imparting the knowledge of her traditional adire designs in thousands of eager students from across the world. Her teaching exploits, she disclosed, have taken her to revered institutions like Harvard and Edmonton in Canada.
“I have lectured and held workshops in several noble institutions across the world. Some of the universities include Harvard, Columbus, Edmonton, Ohio and in Los Angeles, among others. My first experience with teaching was in 1974. At that time, I taught people with doctoral degrees.”

Interestingly, all the education she had at the time, according to her, was the traditional education that parents pass onto their children.

“The type of education I had at the time was the education that is passed from parents to their children, not the education you get in a classroom. It was the practical type of education,” she said with a wry smile.

In 1983, she established the Nike Centre for Art and Culture in Osogbo, Osun State, where trainings are offered free of charge to Nigerians in various forms of arts. The centre was opened with 20 young girls who were picked from the streets and offered a new life in arts. So far, according to her, more than 3,000 young Nigerians have been trained at the centre.

The centre also admits undergraduate students from many universities in Nigeria for their industrial training programmes in textile design. The centre now admits students from Europe, Canada and the United States of America. International scholars and other researchers in traditional African art and culture also visit the centre from time to time for their research works on the processing of adire fabric and African traditional dyeing methods.

But she says the true story of the gallery started in her bedroom about 47 years ago.

“The gallery you see today actually started in my bedroom in 1968. In 2008, we opened the one in Lagos, and my husband was always the motivator. It was intended to give the young and old a platform to hear their voice.”

As she spoke, with signs of fulfillment splashed on her face, her husband, Reuben Okundaye, a retired commissioner of police, who had remained quiet since the interview started, suddenly joined in the conversation.

He said: “It is with practical education that she has continued to teach and impart knowledge into people with doctoral degrees and masters in Fine Art. Some of these people even come here under the cover of night to seek advice from her. Yet, some would say she is not educated.”

Speaking about another experience, Mr. Okundaye said he once had an encounter with a prominent Nigerian who told him that his wife would have been made a minister of the Federal Republic of Nigeria if she was educated. Surprised, he said he took a swipe at the man, telling him his wife was better educated than most of the people that were being flaunted.

He said: “You can imagine, I was discussing with one big man the other day and he said that my wife would have been made a minister if she was educated. I was angry and I asked him what he meant by that. Here is a woman who teaches people with doctoral degrees in higher institutions all over the world, yet you say she is not educated. But when the chips are down, they come to her for advice.”

Asked how she feels whenever she teaches in the classroom, Nike looked up as if relishing her achievements, and said: “I feel fulfilled. It was a very high sense of fulfillment. Imagine, a little girl who grew up in a rustic village without any sign of hope for a good future. Now I stand before PHD holders and teach them. I have been invited to meet presidents of foreign countries. I think I should be proud of my little achievements and be grateful to God.”

In spite of her seeming low education, she insists she has no regrets about not attending school. “I have no regrets at all. I give thanks to God for making all these things possible for me. I also thank my husband for standing by me all these years. I must confess that it was not easy coming this far. You will agree with me that for a woman to be recognised, she has to work three times harder than a man.”

Reechoing his wife’s position, Mr. Okundaye said Nike could not have had any regrets, having attained the heights sought by many across the world. “You asked if she has any regrets. How can that be possible? What kind of regret was she supposed to have with all her achievements? She is fulfilled in every sense of the word,” he enthused.

Expectedly, the couple was attracted to each other by their mutual love for arts. Okundaye told The Nation how it all started: “I have always been an arts lover. I have some of her works. Perhaps, like you said, maybe it was destiny that brought us together.”

With a sterling career as a police officer, which saw him attaining the rank of Commissioner of Police and serving in more than four states, the couple has in the last 20 years of their coming together enjoyed the beauty of marriage and weathered the storm together.

Nike, who would be 64 in a couple of weeks, has also successfully created an identity for herself. Her most treasured clothes, she confessed, are adire fabrics. And it is not surprising that she cannot remember the last time she wore anything other than that.

“You may be right if you say I have created an identity for myself with my adire clothes. It is the only thing that I am known with. I don’t wear any other clothe, even when I travel out of the country,” she said.

Source: African Leadership 

17 ways a Guys ought to treat their ladies.

17 ways a Guys ought to treat their ladies.

When you found the woman you believe is the right one to spend the rest of your life with, there are ways you should treat and relate with her to make her feel loved. As written by actor John Dumelo:

1.Don't compare your wife to other women. You don't know what their husbands are going through. 

2. Never expose your wife's weakness to your family or friends or run to them whenever you have issues. Problems are best solved between you and your woman.

3. Don't think you are man so you can use
intimidation, shout or violence to communicate your moods. Agreesive men don't make a happy home.

4. Speak gently and calmly to your wife. Never raise your voice at her, it demeans her and shows you think she is stupid.

5. Do your responsibilities as man...don't leave every to your woman.

6. Never blame your wife if she doesn't take care of the home everyday. She is swamped with house work and helping you raise the kids.

7. Don't be wasteful spending money on drinks, friends and extended family.The wife and children are your first responsibility.

8. Sex is also important to women. Her pleasure should be considered before your own.

9. Never compare your wife to your ex-girlfriends. If you loved them so much why didn't you marry them instead of your wife.

10. Never shout down your wife or challenge her in front of the children. The children are watching. They won't listen and obey her too.

11. Tell your wife she's beautiful even if you know she's looking normal. Women love compliment.

12. Don't forget that women also want attention and someone to share their thougts with. Never be too busy for your wife.

13. A prayerful man is a better equipped husband. Pray always for your wife and family. Don't leave the prayers to your wife.

14.Treat your wife like a queen. Buy her gifts, take her shopping and once in a while, cook for her.

15.Please don't forget your these anniversary dates. Wedding ,engagement,the first time you kissed. I beg you. These dates mean a lot to women. (Don't ask me why). I also don't know.

16. Your mother should not have the final say in your marriage. You married your wife, not you and your mother. Let her talk in her own husband's house. 

17.There are 5 days each month that you have to say "I'm sorry", "yes baby" and "I love you" more than 7 times a day. That's when she's menstruating.

I just hope John Dumelo is practicing what he's preaching..and we won't hear a long story about him soon.

After a battle of 18 months Cancer, David Bowie Dies at 69

After a battle of 18 months Cancer, David Bowie Dies at 69 

The legendary rock singer, David Bowie has passed on after a long battle with cancer.The 69 year old died peacefully in his sleep.According to a statement on his facebook page

"David Bowie died peacefully today surrounded by his family after a courageous 18 month battle with cancer. While many of you will share in this loss, we ask that you respect the family's privacy during their time of grief."

 Bowie is survived by two children, as well as his wife Supermodel Iman, whom he had been married to since April 24, 1992.

Gobe !! Akure Prostitutes Prevented From Entrying Church on New Year Eve (Photo)

Gobe !! Akure Prostitutes Prevented From Entrying Church on New Year Eve (Photo)

In what is reminiscent of the biblical five foolish virgins who were locked out of the feast of the bridegroom, some commercial sex workers hoping to get into church late for prayers ringing in the New Year were shut out by security at the Sacred Heart Cathedral in Akure.

Many prostitutes who ‎had attempted to sneak in for last minute grace got the shock of their lives as they were prevented from entering the church by the gatemen. But why did they stop the ladies?

According to Sunshine Times, there are many brothels around Sacred Heart Cathedral which cater to the needs of men in search of quick s*xual favours. It is the custom of the ladies to make a late dash into the church in order to crossover into the new year.

However, this year would be different and the incident ‎caused a bit of commotion at the gate as many other people including revellers from adjoining bars were also affected by the action of the gate men who were trying to ensure that "negative" characters did not sneak into the service.

One of the security men was heard murmuring: “Na God catch dem today. Dem too like to always rush into church at dying minute. Where dem dey before, yeye people.”

But some of the affected ladies said it was their personal business to come to church at their own time.

“They should not stop us from entering at any time we like, this is God’s house for crying out loud,” said one of the ashawo babe who simply identified herself as Tina.

Nigerian Billionaire Femi Otedola Shares Picture of his beautiful Wife Nana Otedola

Nigerian Billionaire Femi Otedola Shares Picture of his beautiful Wife Nana Otedola

The respected businessman is pictured chilling with his stunning wife, Nana Otedola. Hmmm, Money makes the world go round. Lovely couple!

Korede Bello in academic bulalah as lecturers threaten to resigns if he is allowed to write exams

Korede Bello in academic bulalah as lecturers threaten to resigns if he is allowed to write exams

According to an exclusive report by Naij, some of Korede Bello’s lecturers at the Nigerian Institute of Journalism (NIJ) where he is currently undergoing his Higher National Diploma, have threatened to resign if he is allowed to write his exams later this year. 

A student of the institute allegedly revealed to Naij that, during a lecture on Wednesday, January 6, a lecturer said the decision was made because the Mavin Records signee has not met 70% class attendance for the semester.

This is what you get when you alter Gods creation. See what happened to lady who tried to get Kylie Jenner lips

This is what you get when you alter Gods creation. See what happened to lady who tried to get Kylie Jenner lips

A young woman who had £50 fillers injected at a Thai clinic after finding a cheap deal was horrified when her lips turned blue and lumpy.
Amelia Greville, 24, who lives in Bangkok and works as a teacher, saw a deal for Juvéderm lip fillers online and purchased it, delighted as this is the brand Kylie Jenner uses.

The 24-year-old,was not concerned about the cheap price - in the UK Juvéderm fillers normally cost up to £400 - as she believed Groupon was a 'trusted site'.After having the injections in April last year she was initially happy with her new look, as her lips were much plumper.But within months she was devastated when hard, wart-like lumps formed on her mouth.

She told MailOnline:

 'I looked in the mirror and looked horrific. I cried to my boyfriend at the time, but I didn't tell anyone back home.'Your lips are right there on your face, the first thing that people look at.'Mine looked grotesque. The word I always say is my lips look mangled.'Now I try to never smile with my mouth open because I’ve got these massive three lumps.'Whenever I meet someone new I’m self-conscious, I think "they must be looking at my lips".'

 Miss Greville added she felt so unconfident that her unsightly lips put a strain on her relationship, eventually contributing to the couple breaking up.

: 'I really didn't want to be kissed, and I still shy away from it.’

When Miss Grenville returned to the clinic two months later, staff injected her with another fluid they claimed would rectify the problem.

Instead, to her horror, her lips started to swell and turn blue. Later, more yellow, painful lumps formed on top of the initial lumps that already protruded from her mouth.
Now, she is desperately fundraising to have an operation to fix her appearance.

Miss Greville told MailOnline: 

Before the lipfillers

'I'm not the type that would have cosmetic surgery done. I'm not unhappy with my lips. But my friends had lip fillers and they looked good.

'I'd researched Juvéderm loads, it's what Kylie Jenner had, it's what everyone gets. Because it's non-permanent, I saw it like having your hair dyed.'

HELP ME! Mother and Daughter Want Me To Sleep With Them

HELP ME! Mother and Daughter Want Me To Sleep With Them

Believe it or not, I am a virgin at the age of 25. My problem now is that my boss and her daughter are both trying to get me into bed. After I finished at the law school, my mum arranged for me to work in her friend’s chambers to gain experience. Sadly, my mother recently lost her battle against breast cancer. She died, leaving me devastated and my boss said if I ever needed anyone to talk to, she would always be there for me.

Then, she invited for meals. She’s a single mother of two and lives with her daughter who is my age-mate. I was leaving her house one night, after a meal when she asked me to wait. She shut the door...

and started kissing me, but she stopped when her daughter arrived home. The next day at work, she started sending me saucy e-mails, saying, “I think you have a hot body.”

Now, she’s confessed she has feelings for me and she wants things to get sexual between us. I’ve never had s*x before, so I don’t think I’d be much good to her.

I’ve also been spending time with her daughter. She’s single and I’ve introduced her to my friends because she wants to meet a man. This had taken my mind off things and got me socializing again. My boss’ daughter is very pretty and I thought she’d find a man quickly, but it hasn’t happened, so, I asked her why. She said it was because the person she would really love to be with is me. 

Then, she asked me to come up to her bedroom. I was shocked and a bit lost for words. Why has this happened? I don’t know what to do. It’s stressing me out. I’m worried one of them will say the wrong thing to the other at home and it’ll all blow up in my face. What should I do?

- A young man Bayo sent this by e-mail to Aunty Bunmi. Read the reply he got...

Dear Bayo,
You seem like a sweet guy and I fear you’re letting these two women take over and dictate your life. You’re 25 and still a virgin and, judging by the female attention you’re getting, I’m guessing you’re an attractive man. So, it’s fairly safe to presume there is a reason other than lack of opportunity as to why you’ve hung onto your virginity.

If you were eager to put the proverbial notches on your bedpost, you’d have slept with the mother and the daughter, instead you resisted the mother and while you were attracted to the daughter, the attraction faded when she tried to lure you into bed. You are obviously not out for s*x, you are out for a real connection. But, it is okay to be. You have lost your dear mum and are feeling lost and vulnerable. The last thing you need is a weird mother/daughter s*x triangle. If you can find another legal firm to work with, do so. If not, let the mother realise that as much as you’ve appreciated her support, you’re not interested in having a relationship that is more than maternal.

As for the daughter, I think you should steer clear. it’s going to be very messy if you date her. Hell has no fury like a woman scorned, but mother losing out to daughter is something even more dastardly. You deserve to be with someone, who really cares about you, who’s willing to take it slow and lets you initiate s*x when you feel ready to have it. 

So, go back to socialising and simply enjoy yourself until you feel truly ready for a relationship.

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Who says you cant loose that weight in no time ?

Unbelievable! See Lepacious Bose’s weight-loss wonder

Top female stand-up comedienne is known to be a very fat woman, but one who has used her huge weight to good effect by using her body as a vessel to sell her jokes across. Even her name ‘Lepacious Bose’ is a mockery of her figure.

Bose seemed so much at home with her huge weight and so thought many of her fans but she was secretly ashamed by it and working to shed them off!

For two years now she has been on a strict diet and it looks like it is paying off for her. She celebrated her success on Instagram with a couple of pictures and surely Lapacious Bose as we used to know her is fast disappearing!

“These days I just love taking pictures, it’s amazing how far av come from acting like I love the camera, and actually loving it. The journey of a thousand miles starts with one step, make a choice, start today, a little walk, a little exercise, a conscious healthier eating habit….it all comes together slowly but surely, you too can loose that weight, let’s enjoy this journey together. Almost 2yrs on this journey and I can’t stop smiling. #lovinglife” she gleefully posted.
But the question on the lips of her fans and those who know her well is, will she continue to bear the name, Lepacious Bose? Lets wish her luck and see what comes out of it.