5 Reasons Online Relationships Fail

5 Reasons Online Relationships Fail

It's normal human nature, to seek companionship, love, and closure wherever they can find it. Whilst some people go through more conventional ways of meeting people like; dating apps or face to face, there are others who find closure or fall in love with people they met online. 

Online relationships have actually come to stay. This is because let's face it, this is where you always are anyway.

Nevertheless, being in a virtual relationship doesn't excuse couples from having regular relationship problems. Matter of fact, these issues they face are similar to the reasons why conventional "face to face" relationships fail.

Out of the many reasons for failed virtual relationships, here are 5 reasons why online relationships fail;

Unrealistic Expectations

When you've not seen someone before, you tend to create an ideal image of what they should look like in your head. At that point, they are your dream girl/guy.

This can cause you to put unrealistic expectations on them. If you two finally meet and they don't live up to those expectations, it breeds disappointment and hurt feelings.

Not Enough Face Time

Being in a relationship goes beyond text messages, calls and face time. A huge part of it requires the couple sitting down together to have a heart to heart conversation.

Online relationships lack this factor and the couple might begin to get frustrated because there are things they need to discuss, which can't be done over the phone. And if you two can't meet regularly, then over time both of you might get tired of not seeing each other.

It Is Online

An online relationship is only existent when both of you are online. As soon as you both go offline, the rules of engagement change.

They can do whatever they want and can tell their partner what they please. Virtual relationships lack honesty and faithfulness because

you can't see each other and as such, don't know what you're up to.

Also, most online relationships are one-sided and simply born out of love addiction. Your partner simply got into it because they are just excited to have someone on the whole internet to talk to on a regular basis.

Lack Of Physical Satisfaction

As a human being that you are, there are times when you will just be craving physical contact.

And there is nothing more disappointing and heartbreaking than having a boyfriend or girlfriend you can't do those things with because they are inside your phone or laptop.

You can't hug your laptop or imagine forever and at some point, you have to go out and find the real thing because "Body no be firewood".

Illusion

Online life is mere smokes and mirrors. It is not real, everyone has a made up personality to hide who they truly are in real life.

You may fall in love with someone's personality online and idolize the man or woman you have been chatting with for a while now.

Only for you to meet them and they turn out to be the complete opposite of the person you met online. And if their real-life personality doesn't match the one online, this can be a huge turnoff.

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Popular Nigerian Pastor Discovers His Children Are Not His, After DNA Tests

Popular Nigerian Pastor Discovers His Children Are Not His, After DNA Tests

lailasnews.com

Apr 21, 2019 5:00 AM

A Pastor is considering divorcing his wife upon discovering that ‘his children’ don’t belong to him, after DNA tests were being conducted on them.

In his narration, the man revealed that he had an accident years ago before meeting his wife and he was told it would only take a miracle for him to father a child.

Pastor discovers his children are not his, after DNA tests

Surprisingly, years into their marriage, his wife gave birth to their 1st child and then the 2nd and then the 3rd. But after DNA tests were done on the three children, it was revealed that they belong to another man, though his wife is not aware of this.

Read his story:

I have been married for 14years, we have 3kids (all boys) but none of them belongs to me. I know this for a fact but my wife does not know I know. Let me explain.

5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling and our car skidded off the road. I was the only survivor of that accident.

l spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can’t have children.

i gave my life to Jesus Christ and become a committed Christian after the accident.

In summary, I became a pastor in a local church in my community 5years later, I met my wife in the process. I didn’t tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me. 6years of our marriage my got pregnant and had our first child.

To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA and it was clear I wasn’t the father. I repeated the test for all 3children and they are all not mine. I have been living with this situation for the past 8years and I am beginning to get irritated by both the children and my wife.

My Wife pretends to be a good wife. She goes around preaching to women in the church about the need to remain faithful to their partners but she has had 3children by another man or men l don’t know. I want to confront her, but l am confused as how to go about the situation

l am just angry and irritated by everyone in my house lately. I feel like a total stranger in my own home.

what should I do?

A big question that needs a humble and sincere answer.

Dear ladies, see how to show your guy love

Dear ladies,

Let me teach you how to show love to your guy.
Some of you ladies do not know how to show love to the guy you are dating. some ladies think that the only way to show a guy love is by having sex with him; that is why some ladies do not have anything to offer a guy except sex. When guys sometimes buy gift for their girlfriends then they will say’’ "I will pay you back this night by giving you a hot sex." . Its very funny. Sex is not a prove of love. Don't use sex to prove that you love a guy. As a lady, you can prove that you love a guy in the following ways:
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1. Buy gifts for him. You can give him gifts of T-shirts, shoes, undies, singlets or even a phone if you have the money.

2. Take him out for lunch and pay his bills at least once in 2 months. It is not bad at all.

3. Send him some love text messages occasionally.

4. Give him phone calls daily at least once daily, ask him how he is doing and tell him that you love him.

5. Occasionally you can cook a delicious meal for him, maybe once in a week or once in two weeks, but not everyday like a housewife.

6. You can also help him financially when he is broke.

7. Take him out for shopping at least once in a year, you will not die.

8. Pray for him

9. Advise him

10. Help him to build a bright future.

I know some ladies will crucify me because of this post, but this is the ideal thing to do for your guy, not sex, sex sex.
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Guys, Did I make sense?

Ten common sense relationship advice by Joel Jaji

10 COMMONSENSE ADVICE:::

1. You don't need to check his/her phone in search for text messages from other guys/babes. Stop spoiling your mind or giving yourself hypertension unnecessarily.

2. Never beg someone to love you. You don't beg for love, you allow love to grow gradually. Do things that will make the person develop love for you gradually. Not by begging or shedding tears.

3. If your partner says he/she wants to quit the relationship, allow him/her to go. Who told you that there is no one like your partner? There are many people who are better than your partner. A better person will come into your life.

4. To avoid the pain of heart break, do not give the whole of your heart, your body and your life to someone when you fall in love with the person. Human being cannot be trusted; they can break your heart at any time.

5. Being in love does not mean that you should worship the person you are in love with.
Respect them but don't worship them

6. For the fact that you are in love with someone does not mean that you should ignore and disregard every other human being on earth except your lover.
That is cowardice.

7. The number one person in your life must be God and not your boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't allow love turn you into a coward.

8. Do not Love with your heart alone. Use your brain also.

9. Heartbreak is not the end of the world. It may be the open door to a happier life and a better relationship with a new partner.

10. Do not be afraid of falling in love again after a heartbreak. If a bad door did not close, a better door will not open.

Hope i'm making sense!!!👍👍👍👍👍👍
#Good morning

Why Men Pull Away: Top 3 Reasons

Why Men Pull Away: Top 3 Reasons

Almost every woman has experienced the panic and uncertainty that occur when her man starts pulling away or withdrawing. Maybe it happens out of the blue, maybe something sparks it, either way, it’s a miserable feeling, one that leaves you feeling powerless and painfully insecure.

1. He’s Stressed

It’s pretty widely known that when a man is stressed, he retreats to his “man cave.” However, there is a big difference between knowing something and really understanding it. Most women have a hard time accepting that this is how men deal with issues because when we are having a difficult time, our first instinct is to talk about it and seek comfort from friends or loved ones.

Men don’t operate this way. When a man is having a hard time, he needs to pull back and work through his issues on his own. The biggest mistake you can make is not giving him the space to do this.

2. You’re Being Needy and He Feels Suffocated

A man doesn’t have to be dealing with personal issues to feel the need to retreat. Sometimes too much neediness from you is enough to cause him to back away. Neediness isn’t so much a set of behaviors as it is a state of mind. If a man feels like you need him in order to feel OK in your life, or that you need him to fill some sort of emotional void for you, he will instinctively pull back.

Men want to feel wanted and desired, not needed. This is a very important distinction that most women overlook.

3. He’s Having Doubts About the Relationship

Doubts are normal, especially as a relationship deepens. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything about you or how great of a girlfriend you’ve been. Maybe he’s not ready for something so serious, or maybe he’s a little unsure if you’re really the woman he sees himself spending the rest of his life with. And that’s OK. Two people can love each other very much and still not be right for each other in the long run. Maybe something happened to spark these doubts (a fight, jealousy, lack of trust, etc.) or maybe it happened out of the blue. Don’t waste your time analyzing the situation to pinpoint exactly what you did wrong, this will only make you crazy.

How To Know When It’s Time To End Your Relationship

How To Know When It’s Time To End Your Relationship

NOVEMBER 9, 2018

BY OLAMIDE BUSARI

Not all relationships end because one partner does something to hurt the other. Sometimes, your life as a couple may just run its course. However, the fact that you cannot pinpoint a reason to end things makes it more likely that you’ll stay in an unhappy relationship.

These signs that a relationship is over are quite subtle. But they are just as valid as any other major reason to end things. Here they are:

He’s incapable of loving you the way you want to be loved

He might truly love you, but are you really being loved how you want to be loved?  Every individual’s definition of love is different. For instance, you may need more attention than he’s capable of providing or you have certain expectations that he simply cannot meet. In cases like these, it’s best that you both end things so you can each find someone more compatible with your respective needs.

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A lack of tolerance

Nobody is perfect and your partner will definitely have quirks that may rub you off the wrong way. Usually, happy couples learn to tolerate each other and keep things going despite these tiny annoyances. However, what works for one person may not work for another. For example, if you’re a clean freak and your man is super messy, it may seem ridiculous to end things over that. But if you find that his habits are making you irritable and constantly uncomfortable, you may want to consider the fact that the relationship is over. Otherwise, resentment may fester and end up causing major problems down the line.

You stop caring

Yes, you can fall out of love with someone. It happens for a lot of reasons and while there’s a possibility of working things out, in many situations, it simply means the relationship is over. When you stop caring about your partner’s plans, goals, whether he’s had a bad day, and so on, it could mean you’ve emotionally checked out of that relationship. It’s only fair to do so physically as well.

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In some cases, these situations can turn around for the better with loads of therapy and communication. But when you get to this point, especially earlier on in the relationship, you may want to cut your losses and move on.

So, have you decided that your relationship is over? Here are a few tips that should help you when breaking up with your boyfriend.